Chapter Five: No Longer In Service

Letting go hurts, but holding on will hurt forever.

We have closed on our previous book in the last chapter. Now, we want to recognize and release negative thoughts or feelings before we start our first chapter. Discipline yourself to let go of the things that no longer serves you and not worthy of your time. Sometimes it can even be people who we need to distance ourselves from.

Holding on is the mental fear of not knowing what will be next.

As we continue to grow personally and professionally, our mindset and lifestyle may change. The things that once worked for us may not work anymore so we must find the new things that works. At times, we hold onto things longer than we should because they feel "familiar" and "comfortable" — not realizing that most of these are impacting us negatively. We let go of trust, beliefs, confidence and our identities.

I am a huge believer of giving others and things the benefit of the doubt. I gave away my time in hopes that I will receive the same in return. I followed the "American Dream" that I assumed will lead me to succeed by trying to climb up the corporate ladder, but it drained me daily. Being the Yes girl to everything added no value to my life because I did not respect my time and squeeze everyone in my schedule. This is when I had to learn how to be honest with myself and question if all of this serves me in my present and future. It did not take me overnight to make these changes, but it took patience and discipline.

Letting go is more effective than supplementing.

Set aside the time to question yourself if these things will still benefit you in a few months to a few years. Do not put a band aid on the things you want to let go, but really don't. This will be a in a future blog post. 😉

Cancel the negative thoughts and energy that will distract you from reaching your goals. Stop yourself when you are getting upset over your past or a similar situation in the present. This is why having a strong self-awareness is important so you can detect these negativity easier and faster. (I mentioned this in Chapter Three: Self-Reflection)

In conclusion, removing the things that are no longer in service to you is a process. Learn to acknowledge, accept, adjust and trust the process. We must acknowledge what is making us unhappy, unsatisfied and unwell. Accept the truth even if it's ugly and hurts. Adjust by removing and rediscover new life values and morals — the emptiness will be filled with greatness. Lastly, trust the process that you will become the person you strive to be.

Thank you for reading this chapter. I hope you enjoyed the read and you or someone you know can relate. Please leave any respectful feedback. Have a blessed day!

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